"Although we think that we act because of the way we feel, we often feel because of the way we act... so act the way you want to feel. When annoyed, act thoughtful. When you feel resentful, act lighthearted."-- Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project
"Don't React. Act"-- Anand
NPR has a new series on happiness-- This emotional life-- which gives a lot of insight into this illusive happiness that we are all searching for. I love Elizabeth Gilbert's take on porcupine love... they come together for warmth and yet because of their quills, they end up pricking each other... those that can keep a safe distance, and yet still stay warm, find the most contentment... something to think about. Letting go of attachment (aparigraha)- to the idea of love or how your life should be... being satisfied with life and simply finding more positive things than negative ones to dwell on, she feels is the simple secret to happiness. While that sounds good in the short term, I feel like happiness is so fleeting. Joy. Joy is what I long for daily. Joy stays with you and cannot be taken from you, while happiness comes and goes with our circumstances.
How do you find happiness? Lasting joy?
"Happiness comes from experiences we have with people we love"-- unknown